Few more Relationship Myths with their Realities
You believe these myths, and when your relationship doesn%u2019t measure up, you%u2019re convinced something%u2019s wrong.
Myth: Happy couples can see things through each other%u2019s eyes.
Reality: You can%u2019t possibly see things the same way as your mate, because you%u2019re just not the same people. You%u2019re different genetically, physically and psychologically and you%u2019ve had different experiences in the world. You%u2019re a woman and he%u2019s a man, and you%u2019re not wired the same
Myth: Happy couples always have lots of romance.
Reality: Most people confuse that giddy, dizzy feeling you have early on in your relationship with romance. Nope. That%u2019s called %u201Cinfatuation%u201D and it will pass. Romantic love is emotionally driven. It%u2019s novelty, excitement, and newness, but it doesn%u2019t sustain a relationship.
Myth: Happy couples can resolve all their disagreements.
Reality: There are some basic issues that you will always disagree about. You each have your opinions on these things that won%u2019t change. Just agree to disagree.
Myth: Happy couples need to have common interests.
Reality: It%u2019s a bonus if you do, but there%u2019s nothing wrong with your relationship if you don%u2019t do the same activities. If you and your partner are forcing yourself to engage in common activities but the results are stress, tension, and conflict, don%u2019t do it!
Myth: Happy couples don%u2019t fight.
Reality: Conflict is a fact of life in most relationships, and arguing %u2014 as long as it%u2019s not destructive and doesn%u2019t turn into character assassination %u2014 isn%u2019t a negative thing. Arguing can actually help the relationship by releasing tension and instilling the sense of peace and trust that comes from knowing that you can express feelings without being abandoned or humiliated. Plus, there%u2019s the make-up sex%u2026
Myth: Happy couples vent all their feelings to each other.
Reality: Getting things off your chest might feel good, but when you blurt something out in the heat of the moment, you risk damaging your relationship permanently. Many relationships are destroyed when one partner can%u2019t forgive something that was said during uncensored venting. Think before you say something you might regret.
Myth: Being a happy couple has nothing to do with sex.
Reality: A good sexual relationship can make you feel closer, more relaxed, more accepted, and more involved with your partner. Keep sex on your list of priorities.
Myth: Happy couples are always in sync sexually.
Reality: Except maybe in the beginning when you can%u2019t keep your hands off each other, it%u2019s totally normal for you to be in the mood at different times.
Myth: Happy couples know the right and wrong way to make their relationships great.
Reality: There%u2019s no cookie-cutter way to be in a relationship, and no handbook on the proper way to love each other, fight, relate to each other, or do anything else that has to do with being in a relationship. What%u2019s important is that your ways work for the two of you.
- Varun
