A Brand New Start

A Brand New Start
by Raman Bharadwaj

How nice if we could make a "Band New start" to anything in life as
we make a "Brand New Start" at the beginning of each day.
Do you remember the "good ole days," the days when your relationship
was good and your life was happy?

It's human nature to want the good or exciting times to stay the
same, to hand on to what feels good.
If your partner is very attentive and interested in everything you
say, almost as though you're the only person in the world, it feels
wonderful.
Who wouldn't want to be treated like that?
Yet, one of the laws of nature (and of relationships) is change—the
fact that nothing (good or bad) stays the same.
This doesn't mean your love and respect for one another won't become
deeper, richer, or even more satisfying. It simply means that today's
experience will never be exactly like yesterdays.
If you resist this reality, you'll inevitably end up disappointed,
longing for experiences of the past, demanding that your partner be
the same.
If you embrace it, however, you'll be free to enjoy one another each
and every day.
It doesn't matter whether you've just met or fallen in love—or
whether you've been together for many years—it can be enormously
helpful to make "a fresh start" decision.

Doing so is the relationship version of "cleaning the slate" and
making today, instead of yesterday or tomorrow, the most important
day of your life together.

Making a fresh start decision means making the decision to drop all
concerns, regrets, and disappointments from your past, as well as all
of your expectations regarding the future.
Today becomes the focal point of your relationship.
This day becomes more important than past mistakes or future plans.
Starting now you will stop comparing today to days gone by—or your
hopes of a better tomorrow.
You ask yourself the question, "How can I make today the best day
that it can possibly be?"
The answer to this simple question becomes the key to a heartfelt and
loving connection.

The good news is that you have the capacity to make the precious
moments of today all that they can be. You do so by dismissing your
thoughts from the past and postponing your reactions of tomorrow—
until they too become today. So, what are you waiting for? Your fresh
start begins today!

One of those things that is main thing is "Trsut."
Trust others and let the other lay their trust on you.

A few ways to make others trust you…

Anytime we flip a switch, turn a key in the ignition or mail a
letter, we expect something to happen.
Each act involves an exercise in trust. We trust that something will
happen. Many a times the question comes up, who or what do we trust?
Trust is an essential and a vital ingredient of our daily living.
Neither can you touch, feel, see or taste trust, nor can you live a
day without escaping its effect. One theorist defines trust as belief
in the goodness of others while some others think trust as
communication plus commitment plus time. The parties involved must
feel free to communicate, not just talk to the other person, but feel
good to exchange ideas. Time is also needed. Many a times, there will
be open communication, there will be a commitment, but this thing
called commitment hasn't passed the test of time. In relationships
where there is communication and a commitment that has passed the
test of time, there is trust. This is the kind of trust a person can
depend on. Some of the ways by which we can go building trust are :

Fulfil promises :
When you make promises take necessary steps to fulfill them. Many
don't understand why people fail to keep their promises. If you are
unable to keep to your promise, take the trouble to explain why you
can't.

Say what you mean:
The environment becomes an untrustworthy one when people make threats
or say things they don't mean. They become empty words. It is
therefore important that people can trust what you say.

Don't take things that don't belong to you :
This includes both material and liberties. Although this seems like a
very simplistic policy, it is very important. When we respect others'
property, space, and privacy an environment of trust flourishes.

Encourage others with kind words:
The only way you can build people and there by a team is by
encouraging them all the way with your words and action. When you
lack in this the place becomes dreadful.

Look for the good situations:
Sometimes the people we be with or the situations we have to face are
less than ideal.
In these situations, it is important to find some good situations.
This will help you make a change in your mind-set so that you will be
in a situation where trust can develop.
Without trust developing intimacy is impossible. Whether we realize
it or not, trust is a daily part of our lives, and we must take the
steps to make ourselves more trustworthy
 
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