7 Power Skills that Build Strong Relationships !!

A strong, healthy relationship is one in which the partners show respect and kindness toward each other. The relationship forms a rewarding and enduring bond of trust and support. Here are seven power skills that will help you form stronger alliances and bring more closeness, authenticity and trust to your relationships.
1. Relax Optimistically
If you are comfortable around others, they will feel comfortable around you. If you appear nervous, others will sense it and withdraw. If you are meeting someone for the first time, brighten up as if you've rediscovered a long-lost friend. A smile will always be the most powerful builder of rapport. Communicating with relaxed optimism, energy and enthusiasm will provide a strong foundation for lasting relationships.


2. Listen Deeply
Powerful listening goes beyond hearing words and messages; it connects us emotionally with our communication partner. Listen to what the person is not saying as well as to what he or she is saying. Focus intently and listen to the messages conveyed behind and between words.

Listen also with your eyes and heart. Notice facial expressions and body postures, but see beneath the surface of visible behaviors. Feel the range of emotions conveyed by tone of voice and rhythm of speech. Discern what the person wants you to hear and also what they want you to feel.
3. Feel Empathetically
Empathy is the foundation of good two-way communication. Being empathetic is seeing from another person's perspective regardless of your opinion or belief. Treat their mistakes as you would want them to treat your mistakes. Let the individual know that you are concerned with the mistake, and that you still respect them as a person. Share their excitement in times of victory, and offer encouragement in times of difficulty. Genuine feelings of empathy will strengthen the bond of trust.


4. Respond Carefully
Choose emotions and words wisely. Measure your emotions according to the person's moods and needs. Words can build or destroy trust. They differ in shades of meaning, intensity, and impact. What did you learn when listening deeply to the other individual? Reflect your interpretation of the person's message back to them. Validate your understanding of their message.

Compliment the person for the wisdom and insights they've shared with you. This shows appreciation and encourages further dialogs with the individual. A response can be encouraging or discouraging. If you consider in advance the impact of your emotions and words, you will create a positive impact on your relationships.
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When people synchronize their watches, they insure that their individual actions will occur on time to produce an intended outcome. Relationships require ongoing cooperative action to survive and thrive.
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As relationships mature, the needs and values of the individuals and relationship will change. Career relationships will require the flexibility to meet changing schedules and new project goals. Cooperative actions provide synchrony and build trusting alliances. They are part of the give and take that empowers strong, enduring relationships.
6. Act Authentically
Acting authentically means acting with integrity. It means living in harmony with your values. Be yourself when you are with someone else. Drop acts that create false appearances and false security.

When you act authentically, you are honest with yourself and others. You say what you will do, and do what you say. Ask for what you want in all areas of your relationships. Be clear about what you will tolerate. Find out what your relationship partners want also. Being authentic creates mutual trust and respect.
7. Acknowledge Generously
Look for and accentuate the positive qualities in others. Humbly acknowledge the difference that people make to your life. Validate them by expressing your appreciation for their life and their contributions. If you let someone know that they are valuable and special, they will not forget you. Showing gratitude and encouragement by words and actions will strengthen the bonds of any relationship.

Don't forget to acknowledge your most important relationship: the relationship with yourself. Acknowledge your own qualities, and put those qualities into action. You cannot form a stronger relationship with others than you have with yourself. You will attract the qualities in others that are already within you. Ask yourself: What thoughts and behaviors will attract the kind of relationships I desire? What is one action I could take today that would empower my current relationships? Write down all the qualities or behaviors that you desire for your relationships. Select the power skills that will attract those qualities. Keep a journal of the actions you take and the progress you make. By turning these skills into lifelong habits, you will build relationships that are healthy, strong and mutually rewarding.

By Steve Brunkhorst
 

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Improving Interpersonal Relationships

When you come to the realization that interpersonal relationships are based on needs then the steps following become simple and effective

To understand what a relationship is, how to bring one about, how to enhance one, and why relationships are diminished and lost, one must understand the power of a person's needs.

The most important things in the world, to us, are the things we believe that we need. Needs affect opinions, attitudes, and viewpoints. Generally we're more aware of unfulfilled needs than the ones that are consistently met.

Fundamental life needs in particular are so commonly accepted that we usually overlook them. No one is aware of the air breathed, the ground walked on, the water drunk, and yet these are the needs we miss most when gone.

The key to a good interpersonal relationships is simple once you understand the role that needs play in making a relationship weak, moderate, average, or strong. Let"s give the word relationship a different definition from the dictionaries, for unlocking the meaning of the word often leads to greater understanding.

Here is the word defined: A good relationship is a mutual filling of needs.

When two people have strong needs and each fills the other's needs, there is a powerful interpersonal relationship. When two people have weak needs and each fills the other's needs, there is a mild relationship. When either person has strong needs and those needs are not being filled, there is a poor relationship. When either has weak needs and those needs are not being filled, there is a mild relationship, but one leaning more to the negative side than the positive. When a weak need is not being filled, there isn't much caring either way.

To enhance any relationship is simple: find out what the other person needs and then fill that need. To end a relationship the reverse is true. Find out what the other person needs and keep those needs unfilled.

It's as simple as that. The great principle of correspondence states, "As above, so below, as below so above." When you know the key to happiness you have also learned the key to unhappiness. Without realizing it, when you know how to be a failure, you also know how to be a success.

The key to improving interpersonal relationships is simple once you understand the role needs play.

When you are successful at failing in interpersonal relationships, you also know how to be successful at succeeding in relationships, once the concept is understood. An individual who fails at a relationship is a person who neglects the needs of the partner. So it would follow that the first step to a successful relationship is to determine what needs the other person has. It is also vital to understand your own needs so that you can help the other person in the relationship to fill your needs.

Unfortunately not only do the great majority of people fail to see or to understand the other person's needs, they do not understand their own. Children have wonderful relationships with their parents as long as their great needs are being filled. When the needs are unfulfilled, the relationship changes and problems arise. As the child grows, needs change; it is essential that the parent recognize the changes. As it is with the child to the parent, so it is with the parent to the child.

When you ask, "How can I help better this relationship?" you are asking the wrong question. To get the correct answer we have to ask the right question. A better question would be, "How can I fill this person's needs?"

We now come to that fundamental question with regard to a good interpersonal relationship. "How do I discover and recognize needs? Needs in myself as well as needs in others." It is sometimes easier to recognize another person's needs; our own needs are often hidden by fear, guilt, and programming.

The way to recognize needs in other people is by their response to you. When you do or say something and you get a positive response, you are well on the way to need recognition. As it is in others, so it is in you. What is it you respond to in a positive manner? What do you feel good about getting and about doing? What are you totally guiltless about? What can you do with complete confidence and fearlessness? What emotional scene can you manipulate without fear or guilt? Look in these areas for your needs and you will in all probability find your answers.

When using our methods for need recognition and relationship enhancement, the land of alpha will open you to a good deal more information than a simple thoughtful moment at the beta level of consciousness. As previously stated, our own needs are often hidden by fear, guilt, and past programming. The techniques and exercises covered in the Power of Self Mind Control will allow you to identify your needs and show you why you are who you are in regards to interpersonal relationships. Your effectiveness in influencing and dealing with people will greatly increase with the power of self mind control.

by: Burt Goldman
source: http://www.earthlingcommunication.c...proving-interpersonal-relationships-needs.php
 
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