Arranged or Love Marrage ???

[ROZA]

Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society.
People still debate on the issue, which one is better.
What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms?
We are still confused about these issues......

SO LET US HAVE A BRIEF DISCUSSION ON THIS ISSUE AND FIND A PROPER SOLUTION........

:SugarwareZ-031: :SugarwareZ-031: :SugarwareZ-031:

[kartik]

Its not as simple a topic that it seems.

Ofcourse love marriage if you are madly in love with someone.

But then its not easy to find true love.

And life is too short so people settle for arrange marriages.

[varun007]

arrange urself 4 love see wat hapens guys and girls

[ROZA]

yes .....its true and .....also its a fact that.."Not all love marriages have happy ending"

[kartik]

."Not all love marriages have happy ending"

But they atleast have a story.

I have experienced it. we brokeup just a couple of weeks back .. but i am happy that it happened and we were happy for 5 yrs.

So I would say love marriage, even if it doesnt have a happy ending, the journey is sweet and sour and life is fun ;)

[A.J.]

But they atleast have a story.

I have experienced it. we brokeup just a couple of weeks back .. but i am happy that it happened and we were happy for 5 yrs.


I come back after 2 months only to read this......are you serious??

wtf, I thought you were in it for the long run!!

Though you do have a point....hope you aren't suffering from a post-relationship hangover though :aj:

[gaurav200x]

arranged or love..... in a marriage understanding and giving each other space, yet being comfortable with each other is important. After that whether it is love or arranged.... doesnt make any difference.

[A.J.]

arranged or love..... in a marriage understanding and giving each other space, yet being comfortable with each other is important. After that whether it is love or arranged.... doesnt make any difference.

Kya baat hai Gauravji......badi gyaan baat rahe ho....methinks someone's in love! :aj1: :aj:

[kartik]

I come back after 2 months only to read this......are you serious??

wtf, I thought you were in it for the long run!!

Though you do have a point....hope you aren't suffering from a post-relationship hangover though

Booz takes care of that .. Call me if u wana throw a post breakup party for me ;)

[Pallavi S]

WELL ............................OL THAT I CAN SAY HERE IS THAT ...................SUCCESS OF A MARRIAGE DOES NOT MERELY DEPEND ON "FINDING THE RITE MATE"....................................BUT MAJORLY THRU " BEING THE RITE MATE".....................:SugarwareZ-229: ...........................AFTER THAT IT HARDLY MATTERS WHETHER U R INTO A LOVE MARRIAGE OR AN ARRANGED ONE............................................... .
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THANX................

PALLAVI.:love:

[dpka]

well.....ummmmmmmmmmmmmmm.... love marraige i guess (wen i c my parents fight)!!! n arrange marraige, i guess (wen i c them resolve d fights n still stick 2 each other):SugarwareZ-064:

[rohan8888]

WHETHER IT BE ARRANGED OR LOVE MARRIAGE, EACH OF THEM HAS ITS OWN PROS AND CONS. NO KIND OF MARRIAGE CAN BE STATED A PERFECT ONE BUT STILL I'LL GO FOR THE ARRANGED ONE .


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[gaurav200x]

WHETHER IT BE ARRANGED OR LOVE MARRIAGE, EACH OF THEM HAS ITS OWN PROS AND CONS. NO KIND OF MARRIAGE CAN BE STATED A PERFECT ONE BUT STILL I'LL GO FOR THE ARRANGED ONE .


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From the posts i can see that almost everyone here has the same answer that it is the attitude that counts......

Somehow feel that nothing left on this topic to fight.... :big_grin:

[A.J.]

Booz takes care of that .. Call me if u wana throw a post breakup party for me ;)

:aj1:

Anytime dude....I think I could do with a booze party myself :aj1: :aj:

[dpka]

yes gaurav is absolutely rite... its attitude that counts.... n rohan, panditji se baat karein???? ;)

[Naaz]

According to me wether it's arrange OR love marraige, it completely depends upon you and your spouse how u perceive your relationship??? :SugarwareZ-229:
secondly, it is not one way process adjustment nedd from both the sides.:SugarwareZ-191:

[6.vinay]

well as u said raza its really tough to say that which 1 is better coz right now im 20 n im madly in love with my jaan .
so i think i ll marry her but wen i look the other side which has all our fights n all misunderstandings n mainly my parents i think i wont marry her
coz as im a brahmin n she is gujju my parents wont allow as its not allowed in our cast

so after thinking of such thngs together roza im quite confused but i had stopped thinking n i had left everythngon god as i can run away from any of them

but then too i think there shud b love marriage with arranged with all blessings of our parents so that our life is full of happy ness .sugarwareZ 229

[ROZA]

hi vinay if u r madly in love with this grl and if u kno 100% that ...she is the one with whom u want to spend ur entire life...then jst dont think abt break off...

As u mentioned that she is gujju and cast wil be a mojor prob 4 u..for marrage...
then...according to me its a senseless issue.....common man u can make ur parents understand that u love this grl...

Think 4 a while that u r getting married with a grl of ur parents choice....and her nature is jst opposite to u....then...would u b happy to spend ur entire life with her ???? Or would u want to compro with ur nature....and would u change for her.....forgetting ur likes...ur dreams for her......

see i m nt saying that love marage is good.......n arrange marrage is bad....

i jst wanted to clear one point......from UR reply...see it makes no sense to leave a grl jst coz of her cast diff.....( n mind it.. u love her very mch).....

finally....

after a brief discussion in this thread....

i can jst say that Successfull love marrage or arrange marrages...or LIVEIN Relationship...last only on 5 factors...(ie)
understaning...trust.....adjustment...Space.....Lo ve love love and lots of love....


still this issue will be an endless debatable n confusing issue !!!!!
cant help it guyzz.....:SugarwareZ-064:

[vishal_1986]

its so simple for me.... as of now..im lookin for a gf..ne1 hereeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee...if thrs true love...no issues...love marriage...well ill make sure......tht the one tht is chosen my me....will n has 2 be the best in view of my parents...


if i dnt find love till marriage..time...no issues yaar..life hai...arrange marriage.karkeve love karengee.....ek rista hi toh jodna hai zindagi sath bitane ka ...( i hope pl dnt quote this sayin..dude its nt easy 2 say..zindagi bitana n all...lol...frnds i kwn tht part very well)

[dpka]

all d best vishal... hope u find someone soon..... n dont 4get 2 invite us on 'D' day!!!!

[vishal_1986]

all d best vishal... hope u find someone soon..... n dont 4get 2 invite us on 'D' day!!!!

yeah pakkaa...chal meet ya in colg soon...ha....n u workin for fantasies...ne dept? oh gosh wht am i doin..wrong thread....pm chat..lol

[dpka]

naah... wen selection 4 fantasies was goin on, v had our exams... dunno whom2 approch now.... hope 2 c u in colg.... hopefully with someone! lol!

[6.vinay]

hey really this thread can b ended .n that too it ll end in love marriage if every 1 folows this 5factors

understaning...trust.....adjustment...Space.....Lo ve love love and lots of love....


if u think its true then go for it i thnk its correct ....

[skp]

Love marriage....as the love before marriage is a lifetime thing. After marriage it's probably same in both cases.....doesn't make much of a difference.


But they atleast have a story.

I have experienced it. we brokeup just a couple of weeks back .. but i am happy that it happened and we were happy for 5 yrs.

So I would say love marriage, even if it doesnt have a happy ending, the journey is sweet and sour and life is fun ;)

[ashwini K]

i think a person should try to adjust with the relation coz u do love marrage os arrange disputs r goin to take place.
so at times compromise is the best option for the relation .

[gaurav200x]

I think all the 25 replies above conclude the same fact, that adjustment is the key word. Love/arranged doesnt matter here. Hence, i think we can conclude the debate, as there is no potentially varying answer here.

[djdelson]

love marriage is d best ..... u knoe a person b4 marriage 4 many years n den taking a decision which u wont regret is sumtin u wud cherish all ur life....

[ronaks85]

arrange marage of cource... love is always blind. So i would never fall into the evils of love

[kartik]

arrange marage of cource... love is always blind. So i would never fall into the evils of love

Trust me on this one.. give it a try..

Ofcourse you would first and foremost need a girl who has the same feelings for that :p

[rahul_parab2006]

ya...i think the trust on the partner is important even than love...

well.....ummmmmmmmmmmmmmm.... love marraige i guess (wen i c my parents fight)!!! n arrange marraige, i guess (wen i c them resolve d fights n still stick 2 each other)

as dpka said, when i see my parents fight...i think love marriage is better...

but when i see my friends' experiences in love, then i think arrange marriage is the best...

but out of this, more important is the trust between the two...that will give happy life to u over the lifetime.....

SUCCESS OF A MARRIAGE DOES NOT MERELY DEPEND ON "FINDING THE RITE MATE"....................................BUT MAJORLY THRU " BEING THE RITE MATE".....................

as pallavi said above, i'm agree with her............. it's important to being the right mate............................

Successfull love marrage or arrange marrages...or LIVEIN Relationship...last only on 5 factors...(ie)
understaning...trust.....adjustment...Space.....Lo ve love love and lots of love....

as above posted by ROZA...............it's important to make happy your life with your spouse by considering 5 factors above... in which TRUST, ADJUSTMENT & LOVE are most 3 important factors to make ur life lovely & happy...........

BEST OF LUCK TO ALL OF YOU IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH YOUR SPOUSE !!!

MAY IT LIVE LONG ! FOREVER !!!

[dpka]

well all that is true.. but d question is that adjustments n compromises r taken care of if ur in love... now ts one's decidon as 2 wud he like 2 find love n den marry or mary n find love in that person. i guess all wud prefer d 1st case....

[too cute]

i would anyday go for an arranged marriage!!!

arranged marriages are fun!!!!......an adventure....a challenge
everyday opens a new chapter in the life of the two people concerned
you dont know each other.....n it gets exciting to find out stuff about each other
there are no expectations....you accept each other with all the strenghts and weaknesses
you can never get bored in an arranged marriage!!!!
everything is so new and exciting....no matter whether its good or ugly.....you are ready for anything!!!!

love marriages are........BORING!!!!

[6.vinay]

hey miss too cute lovely yaar i liked the way u presented arrainge marraige but i cant help it im doin love marraige n ill face all those exciting things after my marraige n for me im sure it ll not b boring ..

[shilpisri2000]

I appreciate your spirit for love marriages............ The most important thing is understanding, truth and support in any relationship.............

[A.J.]

i would anyday go for an arranged marriage!!!

arranged marriages are fun!!!!......an adventure....a challenge
everyday opens a new chapter in the life of the two people concerned
you dont know each other.....n it gets exciting to find out stuff about each other
there are no expectations....you accept each other with all the strenghts and weaknesses
you can never get bored in an arranged marriage!!!!
everything is so new and exciting....no matter whether its good or ugly.....you are ready for anything!!!!

love marriages are........BORING!!!!

Only people who are either too heartless to experience love, or too goddamn ugly can say things like that :tongue: :aj:

Oh wait, it's Tanu....ah, that explains it!! :aj1: :aj:

[kartik]

Only people who are either too heartless to experience love, or too goddamn ugly can say things like that :tongue: :aj:

Oh wait, it's Tanu....ah, that explains it!! :aj1:

And so the AJ VANI BEGINS again ...

This is gona be one hell of a BIG FIGHT :aj1:

[gaurav200x]

And so the AJ VANI BEGINS again ...

This is gona be one hell of a BIG FIGHT :aj1:
Oh well, i can't just wait for it to start....... Ab ayega mazza..... :aj1:

[MAXDROIT]

Oh well, i can't just wait for it to start....... Ab ayega mazza..... :aj1:

wah ....ab hui na baat......ab wapi maza ayega MP pe........tanu v/s a.j........

THE BATTLE BEGINS AGAIN................:SugarwareZ-191:

[dpka]

i thought it was love marraige vs arranged marraige........ now wats so interestin here????? ill b waitin 4 more responses....

[gaurav200x]

i thought it was love marraige vs arranged marraige........ now wats so interestin here????? ill b waitin 4 more responses....
lolz.... had u been here a couple of months earlier u would have witnessed the greatest battle in the history of management paradise..... called AJ vs too_cute :becky:

[too cute]

It’s very easy to fall in love and then marry
But
Very difficult to marry and then fall in love…you need a *heart* here.

Only *fools* fall in love with looks……a person who truly loves will fall in love with an individual as a person and accept the way he/she is
Looks will change over the years……your heart wont…

*ugly* or not….your soul should be beautiful….and that’s what matters the most

But unfortunately…*some people* are * too dumb* to understand all this!!!


@topic
You can take love marriage for granted…..but not an arranged marriage…..you will always try harder to make an arranged marriage work as compared to a love marriage……In love marriages, you always end up blaming each other for all the things that are going wrong.

[dpka]

ohh...kkkkk.... wanna c all d fun! hope der's more 2 come.
well, as far as arranged marraiges go der's very less space 2 knw each other. n wen u talk abt "looks", i guess duin an arranged marraige all our parents n ourselves make decision is on d ability 2 earn, looks n family!
so, whr does one come 2 knw how d other is by "heart"????
but one good thing about arranged marraiges is that wen its not working, we have people like our family, society n others 2 BLAME... rather than urself ;)

[gaurav200x]

Ok, let me give u one verdict which i have always believed to be true. How you adjust in a marriage solely depends upon how much can u adjust with ur spouse. Some people are very comfortable with love marriage, whilst some are with arranged marriage.

Like, those who are comfortable with love marriage would argue that love marriage gives u a chance to know ur would-be in advance and u can decide the person with whom u want to spend the rest of ur life, acc to ur nature. The two of u can adjust accordingly. There is a chance to reform and if nothing works out, u can call off the relationship. Atleast it won't be a divorce.

They feel that arranged marriage is a place where u do not get to meet ur spouse much and the time is very short to know his/her nature. Most households, do not give much permission to interact and the two are more or less like strangers. So, love actually begins after marriage and if the nature are too much incompatible, then, it can lead to divorce. Basically it becomes a sort of a compromise.


Now, there are these other class of people who believe that arranged marriage is better.... They feel, that it saves them all the tension and pyar-wyar mein pachas jhanjhat hain. They feel that people dun get committed unless they take "saat fere" and love can be posible even after marriage. Moreover, they feel that people who start with love marriage, eventually get bored.....

So, in the end, it depends upon the mentality of the people. However, i just feel that whether arranged or love, u just have to try to adjust to make the marriage work !! You have to "work" in a relationship... whther love or arranged, whether before or after marriage....

That is the only way, relationships work....

As they say real love thrives not in good times, but in bad times, when there are difficulties. Everyone stays with u in good times, but its the bad times, that test the foundation of ur relationship.

[A.J.]

It’s very easy to fall in love and then marry
But Very difficult to marry and then fall in love…you need a *heart* here.

What happens when you find after 5 years that you can't fall in love with that particular person?? Stuck in a rut you can't get out of, eh? :aj:


Only *fools* fall in love with looks……a person who truly loves will fall in love with an individual as a person and accept the way he/she is
Looks will change over the years……your heart wont…

*ugly* or not….your soul should be beautiful….and that’s what matters the most

But unfortunately…*some people* are * too dumb* to understand all this!!!

Completely agree; never said anything to the contrary.

Unless of course you're trying to put words into my mouth.... :aj:


@topic
You can take love marriage for granted…..but not an arranged marriage…..you will always try harder to make an arranged marriage work as compared to a love marriage……In love marriages, you always end up blaming each other for all the things that are going wrong.

That's a load of cr@p, and you know it. :aj:
Why would someone choose to make an arranged marriage work harder than a love marriage? On what premise do you base that statement on?

I think we can all take it as a subjective statement you make, based upon your own opinions and convictions. Surely that doesn't allow you to make all-encompassing blanket statements like "you WILL...." :aj:

[alimurtaza_82]

Well my vote goes to Love Marriage - coz love is the most wonderful feeling tht cn ever happen to anyone...nd moreover love marriage definitely scores over arranged marriage since u already knw a person in and out in a love marriage nd for an arranged marriage this phase begins only after marriage...

Murtuza.

[cutiesona2002]

hands down to love marriage...i dont understand the concept of arranged marriage..

[born2rule]

i think love marriage which is arranged is better.

[born2rule]

love is better,,but wat if u dnt have love????.....................

[anandsebastin]

I and my wife fell in love with each other in college, and were lucky enough to have our marriage blessed and arranged by our parents.

After three years, our love and respect for each other has grown tremendously and we keep discovering new aspects in each other. I strongly believe that relationships have to be built on trust and openness. You have to work to make an intimate arrangement like marriage work. You have to give up quite a few things, but what you gain in return will be worth much much more.

That's my two cents (There are many more pennies where that came from, but I will save them for later!)

Anand

[roshcrazy]

i prefer love marriage...coz i dont thnk its possible 2 liv all life 2 d fullest wid sum1 u dont luv...dont wanna exaggerate much..!!~!

[A.J.]

I and my wife fell in love with each other in college, and were lucky enough to have our marriage blessed and arranged by our parents.

After three years, our love and respect for each other has grown tremendously and we keep discovering new aspects in each other. I strongly believe that relationships have to be built on trust and openness. You have to work to make an intimate arrangement like marriage work. You have to give up quite a few things, but what you gain in return will be worth much much more.

That's my two cents (There are many more pennies where that came from, but I will save them for later!)

Anand

That sounds real cute, Anand.....I wish you both all the best for the future! :aj:

[chintanghadiyali]

hey its not arranged marriage or love marriage get sucess.. its ur attitude towards that makes different...
thats my view ..

[born2rule]

prevention is better than cure....arranged marriage yaar...not puuting urself in trouble by having love disease...

[evil_breed99]

Nothing is perfect in life and nothing is permanent in life.

Both arranged and love marriage has its pros and cons.
but i still fail to understand th concept of arranged marriages.
if a certain marriage is falling apart, both th individuals shud b mature enough to call it quits and move over it.

[akumar.pgdm]

Hi,
I am new to this site and finding it an interesting one.
Well, as far as the story of Love marriage goes, i want to say that i am getting married to a girl with whom i m in love for past 5 years. It's a good feeling that you are marrying someone whom you know well. In arranged one, you never know what girl/ boy are you getting married to and it may take lots of time and energy to understand each other... in some cases, it may take whole of your life and you dont have many options in our society o rectify that mistake.
So, if u r in love you always have an advantage of knowing ur partner b4 marriage
:SugarwareZ-225:

[cijothomas]

Its accepted that a) Not all love marriages have a happy ending. and b) not all arranged marriages have a happy ending!

So its obvious that its not whether arranged or love which determines the success of marriage life.

Love marriage and Arranged marriage have its own pros and cons.

What actually happens in arranged marriage is, parents go find some "SUITABLE" girl/boy for their children. Now all says parents only choose the BEST for the children.I Agree. But HOW does the parents know how good the person they have selected is?? They have found the boy/girl via some newspaper ad,matrimonial sites or via some brokers. And once they find a mathcing profile they call the candidates parents and meets then and talks and arranges and fixes marriage..Parents will be guiding the candidate with their behaviour at the time of meeting.. and the meetings will be very short periods of time. How can we expect out parents to judje the candidate in such a short period of time??? Parents have every chance of choosing the wrong person for their kid though its un intentional!

There are some cases in which parents will be knowing all about the candidate via friends or some other contact.But thats not the case always! If thats the case, then okey fine. But very few marriages happen like that with parents have a detailed knowledge about the candidate from diff sources.

Sometimes who the parents finding out for their children will not be a suitable one. Its clear that arranged marriage is not gonna find the best partner for you.


Coming to love marriage. Persons will be knowing each other very well before marriage. No body marries 1 week after they fell in love! It might take years before actual marriage is happened. So that time relaxation they have, its very important to know each other. They can judge each other and see if he/she is the right partner for you. Now don't say "KIDS ALWAYS MAKES MISTAKE!!". Whats the logic behind this? Its a true fact that children are smarter than their parents. SO their is no harm if we let them find their own partners.



So i think its love marriage which can help one find a better partner for life. After all, its we who is gonna live with the partner our lifetime.So there is no harm in letting us chose our own partner.

Cheers To All Lovers In MP...

Thanks,

Cijo Thomas
cijo.thomas@gmail.com

[A.J.]

Now don't say "KIDS ALWAYS MAKES MISTAKE!!".

Not at all. On the contrary, I think kids are made because of mistakes :aj1:

Nice 'n sensible post though....except for the 'candidate' bit which sounds like you're going for a frekin job interview :aj:

[kunalsd]

LOVE MARRIAGE or ARRANGE MARRIAGE are part of LIFE and the kind of thing that we believe.

It is said that "MARRIAGES' are MADE in HEAVEN."

Inspite of these the Marriages are broken.

WHY?????

B'coz Marriages are on made in heaven, but we need to perform it.

It's upto us to make our love and marriage life go happily and smoothly.

So, LOVE or ARRANGE marriage doesn't make n e difference its' upto us to make it go simple and happy married life forever.

My Best Wishes to all, and May there MARRIAGE LIFE remains happily forever.

THANKS

KUNAL

[born2rule]

the 1 which is successful....

[melroy88]

Well both are the same ,u either get majorly screw#$ or u end up being the happiest man alive...Well its all about having the RIGHT ONE...i screwed up many times but i finally found D ONE....cheers

[born2rule]

the one which will last forever is best form of marriage acc to me

[born2rule]

fall in love but do arranged marriage..if u want to b happy

[poooja]

well in al dese DESTINY mattrs alot......
so ma cmplete belief is on DESTINY !!!!!!!!

n p'ple in luv hrdly fite 2 get each othr like on family isues n all....bt i think wen u in truly love u won't leave struglin fr ur love n God wil b wid u no mattr wateva my hppn, bt if ur love is true, else fuhget it !!!

n who syz Arnge Mariage hs hapy endin i hv seen mny break ups !!!!!!!

:SugarwareZ-229:

so Ultimately itz Destiny or ur True Love u cn chnge ur Destiny !!!!!!!

[hemant.k008]

Well i do agree with Pooja boss. if its in in ur destiny that ur arrange marrage will b successfull then it will b or else Love marrage. Well i would like to suggest that atleast once, every one should love somebody or the other and give a chanceto our destiny. then se wether that person is actually that u want really want in ur life or not. but atleast having some experience in loving some one will definately help u in long run. it will help u in understanding ur so called arranged wife and the situation will not take worst turn as u will b having experience.

what d u say guys?

[bonddonraj]

well ..........i vote for love marriage ...........par kya kareen ............apun ko kaun jheelega................!!!!!!!!!!..........every time i make miss calls or lines are already busy ............:(

[nilesh_singh]

hey of coures arrange marrage coz we cant go against our parents and in todayz world parents are also with the love marrage so why not to take parents permission

[coolguy_10]

it depends on the individuals involved ... if they work it out , both arranged and love marriages can be successful....

[pooja.teku]

i vote for arrange marriage that does not mean m agaisnt love or somethin but feel that arrange marriage is like a whole new thing like as in u dont know that person n then that eagerness n all itz all different ......in love marriage u know the person for many yearz n then u marry him but in arrange it all new ...knowin that person ... fallin in love oooooooooo
hehhehe but then it all destiny that play an important role
i just hope watever it is love or arrange the important thing is to have a happy life

[heenachougle]

well....settling down vit a stranger can gt wierd at times soo...i feel luv is ne day bttr.....

[Meetushukla]

Marriage - LOVE OR ARRANGED JUST THE SAME AFTER A CERTAIN TIME.

[senthilchandru]

Arranged marriage is better.......!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[senthilchandru]

There is lot of expectations in lov marriage...............lov would be gr8 b4 marriage but not aftr........

[hiren_m_b]

i'll support luv marrage cos u cant stay wid d one u dont know...u dont even knw his/hers past!! in sum cases arrange marriage is good...but love marriage is preferable to me

[RAHUL2021]

I think it is a subjective issue....
n talking abt my exp. arrange marriage is better...
biggest point in favour is inclusion of family in decision...

[anamika_6]

well i prefer arrange marrige, gee someone to blame on for whole life misury ;)

[melroy88]

I already have a gf...SO i say Love marriage is the best...If anyone wants me to elaborate on this ...then do reply :D

[DRISHYA]

Love marriage if u r in madly in love with someone
Arrange marriage if ur age is running out and u want to settle down or if u r not in love

[pooja.teku]

i still say arrange n yea love is beautiful only at the start but latter it all the same
in arrranged, they start to love each other after marriage
and in love marriage they had finished loving each other by the time the get wedan dthereafter they start to fight .
n why would our parents take a wong decision for us as i belive they r the one who realy know watz better for us

[er.sunner]

yeh i m fully agree that chosen topic is the very hot topic in indian society now-a-days. different people have different views on the issue bt i strongly feel that only arrange marriages can be successful in INDIAN SOCIETY..... i m stressing more on indian society becasue i think that Indian mentality does not allow us to afford love marriages...............................


People still debate on the issue, which one is better.
What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms?
We are still confused about these issues......

SO LET US HAVE A BRIEF DISCUSSION ON THIS ISSUE AND FIND A PROPER SOLUTION........

:SugarwareZ-031: :SugarwareZ-031: :SugarwareZ-031:[/QUOTE]

[maulik9999]

it is very difficult to find true love...one should understand each other and then decide otherwise it doesnt have happy endings...one or the other has to adjust otherwise its not possible..

[radhakm]

Love marriage is the most primitive form of arranged marriage.
"They are arranged in heaven" :-)

[priyanka panchal]

you cannot tell what is better its on you if u find a right person then you will feel that love marriages are better and if not arrange is the only option....

[sumeet singh]

Love.... yiiikkk!!!

well again, it depends.. if u r in addictive love :SugarwareZ-229: with someone, u'll NOT listen to anyone:SugarwareZ-254:

[sumit4554]

love marriage for me!!!

[mirthymurthi]

Love marriage..... but the icing on the cake would be a love-arranged marriage!!!...... that way, i can eat the cake and have it too!!!

[anushrimodi@hotmail.com]

marriage is a gamble...its difficult 2 say which is better

[9891782235]

Marriages should be Love cum Arranged

[sandhugagandeep]

i think the indian societ on an overall has started to accept love marraiges as well... if i may quote it as intercaste marriages... cause they are happening these days.... never the less there are many divorces as well.... but the being in love is beautiful but having a long lasting relationship is something that is necessary with trust..... tahts the basis.....
love or arranged marriage TRUST is the word for both.......

[abhimails]

I dnt think it matters as long as you knw n undrstand wat marriage / n sharing one's lives with a stranger who eventually becomes ur soul mate is all about ! n yes, the society's perspective s changing for good finally !

[priyanka.b]

It all depends on how the couple are comfertable in each other's company..so whether its love or arranged it doesnt matter.As long as they are happy with each other it shouldnt matter.

[daisychauhan]

Kartik, I agree with u, atleast love marriages have a story to remember,

[rads10]

dis has been an topic of debate for yrs and deres no end to it...any kind of marriage can b successful or a failure....

[Abby]

i Prefer love marriages instead of thr low sucess rate

i feels if u r serious in a relationshp .....ur maturity inc day by day, to risk taking abilities do inc, yur time management improves, u dnt hv any time fr unnecessary things......morever due to regular fights v become emotionally fit to handle any situation...haha

[too cute]

Arranged Marriages are better.Things change after you get married in the case of love marriages.People don't remain the same.

I would definitely go in for an arranged marriage instead of love marriage!

[pppppppp]

i guess if you love the person then by tell your parents and get the marriage arranged.

[A.J.]

Arranged Marriages are better.Things change after you get married in the case of love marriages.People don't remain the same.

I would definitely go in for an arranged marriage instead of love marriage!

You needn't worry.....we have already established that nobody's gonna fall for you, 'coz you'll probably end up loving yourself more than the poor guy :aj:

[too cute]

You needn't worry.....we have already established that nobody's gonna fall for you, 'coz you'll probably end up loving yourself more than the poor guy :aj:



If the guy is not worth it,he will never get my love...
BUT
If he is then he will get loads of it.

[kadam_5]

well u aint decidin wat u do...n finaly evn luv mariages hv 2 b arangd...aint it ?

[A.J.]

If the guy is not worth it,he will never get my love...
BUT
If he is then he will get loads of it.

"IF..."???

So you're telling me that you'll take a chance with your entire life by going in for a guy you don't even know is worthy enough or not??
Either you are incredibly brave, or mind-numbingly dumb...





Something tells me it's the latter :aj:

[gaurav200x]

"IF..."???

So you're telling me that you'll take a chance with your entire life by going in for a guy you don't even know is worthy enough or not??
Either you are incredibly brave, or mind-numbingly dumb...





Something tells me it's the latter :aj:
Will u two knock it off..... and save the poor souls from ur old timer...
too cute vs AJ

Better make a new thread and bang each other's head there... :aj1:

[A.J.]

Will u two knock it off..... and save the poor souls from ur old timer...
too cute vs AJ

Better make a new thread and bang each other's head there... :aj1:

What....you have already given up hopes of getting us married???? :aj1: :aj1:

:aj:

[Avinnnnash]

when we love some one we sacrifice a lot ....

just even if we marry some one which was arranged marriage , try sacrificing for them .. that will be more better

[sacrificium]

I prefer love. Even at break up, there was the love that I held on to.

[click4tina]

Love marriage....anytime....cos risk is everywhere whether u do a love or an arranged marriage....So, why not take a chance to live ur life wid d person u love.....Possibly, u become d most compatible ones....Also possible, u might breakoff even in 2 years.....But then, those 2 years spent wid ur loved one become a wonderful journey of ur life....Each moment wid d u love is like a lifetime....N thus, LOVE MARRIAGE!!!!!

[A.J.]

Bah, who cares??

Marriage is for suckers anyways! :aj:

[gaurav200x]

What....you have already given up hopes of getting us married???? :aj1: :aj1:

:aj:
No way.... ! :p

Its just that the love you two harbor for each other would appear to be more romantic in a separate thread, esp. meant for that... :big_grin:

[randell]

love love love over & over again

[Harryman]

it depends and varies from person to person ,as both sides have its pros and cons .

for me personally i believe in the concept of Love ......'marriage' ,since this gives me the opportunity to know the person who i will end up spending the rest of my life very well. This gives me the opportunity and confidence that the chances of this 'Marriage' being successful is a lot higher since i happen to know the interests and likes ,dislikes of my partner very well and we share a happy and bonding relationship .

[vnagda]

Love Marraige or an Arranged Marraige......Both have their plusses and minuses....depending on the situation. Some compromise ought to be there.

Mine is a love marriage....12 lovable years thru...

Its how one looks at it.

[akansha_khare]

love is the most important base of any relationship.... whether it happens or after marrige isnt important. wat is important is tht they love n care n respect each other....

[supreet_dhakar]

marriage should be love accordin to me....coz u can easily spend ur life wid him\her...

[shadab]

gr8 debate...m new here...but loooks fun....keep rocking ....

[pratikbharti]

love or arranged is not the issue.......
its basically how u look at the relation and show respect for the other person......
n compromises and adjustments are there in all marriages.......
for love its before marriage n for arranged its later.........

i m planning for an arranged marriage........

[ANONRISINGSTAR]

THEY SAY MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN...I SAY THEY ARE IF AND ONLY IT INVOLVES PERSONS WHO ARE EMOTIONALLY AS WELL AS INTELLECTUALLY COMPATIBLE...FOR THIS THEY GOT KNOW EACH OTHER AND THIS IS POSSIBLE IF THEY SPEND SOME TIME TOGETHER AND GET TO KNOW ABOUT EACH OTHERS WEAKNESSES. THIS IS SOMETHING WHICH CANT BE DONE IN A NARROW MINDED SOCIETY LIKE OURS. THE GIRL AND BOY CAN ONLY CHOOSE THEIR RESPECTIVE PARTNERS ONLY AND ONLY IF THEY PROVE THEMSELVES STRONGLY IN SOCIETY AND THAT TOO IN SUCH A WAY SO THAT NOBODY CAN QUESTION THEIR CHARACTER...
I STRONGLY FEEL THAT THERE'S NO NEED FOR US GOING AGAINST OUR PARENTS OR THE SOCIETY. THE SOLUTION IS VERY SIMPLE...JUST PROVE YOURSELF

[Jayita]

der is no right n wrong It al depends from people 2 people!! as long as da marriage works its cool whether arrange or love! Though yaa der shud b love in da marriage!! N der shud b freedom 2 choose after al its a choice 4 a lifepartner! so fair enuf!

[Bhupesh]

It actually depends on person to person and how they adjust. I belive both have their pros and cons, but i prefere Arranged Marrage

[too cute]

i would anyday go for an arranged marriage!!!

arranged marriages are fun!!!!......an adventure....a challenge
everyday opens a new chapter in the life of the two people concerned
you dont know each other.....n it gets exciting to find out stuff about each other
there are no expectations....you accept each other with all the strenghts and weaknesses
you can never get bored in an arranged marriage!!!!
everything is so new and exciting....no matter whether its good or ugly.....you are ready for anything!!!!

love marriages are........BORING!!!!

umm...

Maybe you should give love marriage a try afterall!!!
:bigsmile:

[A.J.]

umm...

Maybe you should give love marriage a try afterall!!!
:bigsmile:

:aj1:

You're speaking sense for a change....what prompted the volte-face?? :aj:

[too cute]

:aj1:

You're speaking sense for a change....what prompted the volte-face?? :aj:

Nothing great....you never know...i might just change my mind about this tomorrow
:bigsmile:

[A.J.]

Nothing great....you never know...i might just change my mind about this tomorrow
:bigsmile:

too_cute's found someone too_handsome :aj1: :aj1:

Piece of advice for you - forget arranged or love, don't get married.

You never know, you might just change your mind tomorrow... :aj:

[too cute]

too_cute's found someone too_handsome :aj1: :aj1:

Piece of advice for you - forget arranged or love, don't get married.

You never know, you might just change your mind tomorrow... :aj:

Yeah true....
I won't get married only now.

[A.J.]

Yeah true....
I won't get married only now.

Gaurav's gonna be so disappointed on hearing this.... :aj:

[too cute]

Gaurav's gonna be so disappointed on hearing this.... :aj:

Why would Gaurav be disappointed now!!??!!
:SugarwareZ-064:

[varunkohli.jim]

well friends its all........... being suicide or being murdered........ which one is better?????????

[beone]

the most difficult subject on this forum :) i saw many love marriages and arranged marriages also. It depends on your luck. if you fell inlove with somebody than love marriage. if not arrange marriage is better....

[tusharwrites]

Absolutely rite Pallavi,

if u try to give then automatically un recieve back. but v expect frst bfore giving n there problem starts.

Love is all about making our partner happy which in turn shd make us happy. isnt it???


Tushar.

[saigopal]

Its a typical topic where everyone has to get into this matter,
Here I accept with varunkohli.jim saying
"its all........... being suicide or being murdered........ "

But as per my experiences in Love you have to sacrifice a lot than in Arranged marriage in all means................

Sai

[dhamodi]

Who cares as long as girl is beautiful...

[007men]

Hi Roza,
I m married out of love. I feel we should have freedom to chose whom we want to live our life with. We could not chose our parent, atleast we can chose our partner. I am happily married. Take care....

[ankitgokani]

i prefer to be loved first n then get my marriage arranged................

[nancymel]

off course love marriage creates good bomd and understanding between couples

[wiliamsshek]

Can someone suggest me a good resource to get divorced? I am on budget and cannot spend more.

[jayesh_63602]

hiii

i would say arrange marriage is much better.......... its a wonderful feeling to be with a person u get to know better everyday

[jole.craft]

Both arrange and love marriage are equally good, bcoz they involve equal amount of 'risk' at a time. You never know ur most loved buddy after marriage cannot adjust with u. And u cannot know when a stranger becomes ur sole-mate.

Whichever way just enjoy ur life!

[swarnpriya2010]

i thnk it depends....both have tis own flaws and charm

[jaik]

both have their pros and cons but people not from asia generally find arranged marriage a weird concept

[saurabh.jain.mits]

in most cases love is nothing but attraction so after 2-3 yr it becomes very hard to continue the relationship if they are not in true love .

[prasadgoa]

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[jamehs]

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[forzalazio]

Depends from person to person. Both have their pros and cons. And it is purely circumstantial.

[bdatta20042003]

Once you are married it does not matter whether it is love or arranged.............It is all love..................

[Avinashsahani]

ovbiously it depends on the person its the only relation in the humain beings which a humain being can choice even if a person do arrange marriage they should know each other and last but not the least they will have to live forever

[bkfriends7]

love marriage..arrange is not a good idea..

[pisifera]

wow i can't believe it's even discussed!!

well... it depends on the purpose of the marriage.

[friend4all]

i prefer love marriage than arranged marriage because we can know the girl properly if we love them