can a women marry a youger man ???

[rajesh asan]

can a women marry a man younger to her.

may be one year diffrence....

will this make much diffrence in normal love life ??



:SugarwareZ-158:

[cs_aniket]

why not... i guess age is not a criteria to love.... love is understanig for each other, its a respect for each other ... so far one understands each others feeling i dont think it will craeat any hurdle..

[anand_p19]

how does age matter in marriage??? if both r willin, i see no reason to default

[deepakraam]

Well as long as the couple are able to lead a peaceful life t doesn't matter who among them is older.

But when you take the medical aspects,itz nt advisable to marry women too old to ur age.then it mite lead to medical prblms(age diff >4 yrs).

There is one line soution for this.Itz on case-by-case basis.


-Deepak.

[pauldomb_619]

no i dont think so that make any diffrences

[priti..]

i dont thing that it will make any difference as long as they love eachother

[anm0826]

Yes Ofcourse!! Marriage is an institution based on luv trust and understanding. The age hardly matters as long as the two people understand and accept each other with all their plus and minuses..

Moreover, one year is hardly any age diffrence!!! And not to forget.. an older woman is always a better companion. May be this is the reason why in Southern India, most of the people have wives who are atleast 6 years older to them...

And you were thinking one yr is huge gap????

:kelw:

[neha_1987]

Y should there be problem. marriage is based on love and trust. if guys are elder does it gurantee successful marriage?? no...then y this hesitantce to accept younger guys getting married to older women?

[born2rule]

in my opinion age does matter.how??i will say...
1.if a young boy marry's an older women,,he wud look like younger brother
2.maturity..young boys r little immatured,,so he cant understand d needs of gal.(most of d cases)

[kaps1061]

yes a woman can marry to a man who is younger than her....

this wld nt create a difference in thier love life.........

[avadakedavara]

I believe age has nothing to do with marriage.Its based on mutual trust and understanding

[coolmegurl]

well i guess it shouldn't make a diffrence coz after all.... it's d person u love and not his/her age... maturity does not relate to any specific age... so i don't think being younger makes u any less mature...

[arun5183]

its all of mind & heart..... no age needed to decide it........

[rajunair]

there is no diff ....but u may find a problem with maturity....but in most cases age is no garuntee of maturity so if a guy is up 2 it its fine

[kyhs207]

can a women marry a youger man ???

I believed that there isn't any LAW in ANY country prohibiting younger man marrying elder women.

here is a question for you, can a man marry a younger woman?

[kyhs207]

of course. No country prohibit this.

[born2rule]

as kyhs said there is no law,,,i totally agree wid him there is no such law..the question itself bcomes senseless,,ofcourse a person can marry,it is his/her way of life,there is no written law,,so there is no compulsion,,u r not doing n e crime by marrying a younger person..
but i think it is more advisable for a gal to marry a man who is atleast 5 yrs elder to her,,,this wud make d relationship more satisfying..

[Naaz]

no i dont think so there will be ne difference as far as love & TRUST exist in relationship........................

[ROHAN KACHALIA]

well I don't think there will be ne difference as long as there is love btween the two and both of them know what they are doin.
But the problem can arise if the boy dont get permission from their parents to marry his elder love.
and if at all they marry their life will be i guess "salty zyaada".......not "cheeni kum".

[pooja nayyar]

y not?wats d harm in marryin a younger guy......its ur life....u make ur own decisions......if u r happy wid ur choice,n know dat u r makin d rite decision....go ahead....

[pooja nayyar]

y not?each n every person has a rite to choose d partner wid whom they want to spend their life.....age doesn't n shouldn't matter....its nt necessary dat a younger will b less mature...
so one shudnt worry abt age factor at all......go ahead n enjoy ur life wid d person u love....

[melroy88]

Why Not?
Its a crazy world after all.All the relations in this world have been broken, Not in India but outa India atleast.
So a woman getting married to a younder guy aint a big issue.
It goes either ways,it all depends on how they understand each other as a couple.

[bagariachirag]

research has proved that, men are attracted to older women in the same way as women are attracted to younger women. its perfectly alright for a woman to marry a younger man. eg. Mrs. Tedulkar, Demi Moore

[mnd1982]

in a relationship love and respect for each other is needed ."who is older or younger ?" This calculation is such a waste of time

[melroy88]

research has proved that, men are attracted to older women in the same way as women are attracted to younger women. its perfectly alright for a woman to marry a younger man. eg. Mrs. Tedulkar, Demi Moore


I gues you meant to say younger men,...:SugarwareZ-064:

[hemant.k008]

Yaar there should not b any compulsion that boy should be elder than Gal..
What if we take the situation vice-versa.. People say that boy should be at least 3-5 years elder.. But what makes difference if a gal is elder than Guy. its the same thing yaar. When a guy who is elder to any girl , bears maturity.. and is willing to take care of girl and ready to spend whole life... so even a girl (who is elder),is mature enough that she can take care of her husband. what he thinks, whats his likes,dislikes etc.. and if both of them agree, then there should nt b any problem..........

[jainminit]

ya its very much okay

[achal11]

marriage is a bonding of love
nd love has no barriers........so y not............

[AUN]

Y not.... men can marry a older female.. there is no age limit in love ... wen u r in love then there is no barrier.... its just the love wwat matters..

[born2rule]

but i wud still believe,,,elder guy marrying young women makes the pair look better,,and also the compatibility..wat say

[priyaa1]

It's been a tradition in india or rather across the globe (as per my observation) that a marriage usually happens between a younger woman and an elder man.But then there are instances where we would also see some love marriages happening where a women is elder than the man (popular case is sachin tendulkar).
But then society doesn't welcome these marriages at all and people look at them as if it's a big sin created, as if it's a very nasty and a shameless act.But then if you really think seriously on this, i did not find anything very wrong in this.Marriage is all about understanding of each other and being together.

[aman206]

Ofcourse... its high time v stop makin a big deal about such things

[priyaa1]

There is no barrier for age in a relationship.Its all about love and understanding for each other.

[Cherryblossoms]

Age doesnt make a difference but the level of maturity!

[saketh4]

Women can marry men younger to her, but too much age difference may lead to other problems.

[guy_timepass]

i don't think so, it feel's odd...

[prachee]

Ya surely she can marry .

[forwardram]

in any relation understanding is what matters and factors like age really shouldnt matter.. In India people are oppose to such things but really it is high time we grow up.. if a man and women are happy why should any one else bother

[divaker.j]

I firmly believe that it doesnt matter....all u need is a guy and a gal!!!.....it doesnt matter how old they are...
Sachin T is an example...

[yateeshwahaal]

Age should not come in between as a bar, the two have to live their life together and if they are comfortable doing so, then it should not be an issue!!

[pratikbharti]

why not???????
absolutely he can marry an elder lady............
there is nothing wrong with that......
i myself feel the elder lady would be much mature enough and have a better understanding of the life.......
and incase of love, it sees no boundaries, including age........
so no issues over that......... just fall in love, decide and understand each other, n if u find a perfect match, get married......................

[shah0k]

If the 2 are genuienely in love ... then age doesnt matter ... remember Dil chahata hai .......

[rahul.singhh98]

yes a woman can marry to a man who is younger than her....

this wld nt create a difference in thier love life.........

Hey how does ot make diffrence by age... All depends on maturity and way they thing about each other....

[melroy88]

The guess the worlds changing, yound men like mature woman hmmmm dont they ? .... :D ....All that counts is the understanding btw them,thats it. A fairy tale life is the end of a Relationship with Trust,Respect and understanding---age no bars.

Regards,
Melroy

[Learner]

Can a woman marry a younger man?
Answer: Legally yes:big_grin:
But to the bigger part of issue, would it be compatible/advisable? Sorry to sound redundant but depends a lot on people involved into, of course we can't take something to be right by just naming few Tendulkars et. all but yes this is one issue which can be considered primarily with people who are high in term of understanding psychology and need based relation dynamics.Now the problem is with decision which are taken emotionally and justifies wisely at beginning turns sour very soon, so all depends on handling first few hiccups, which can always be estimated by past history of the relationship i.e. say courtship period.Obviously a two to five years of difference doesn't count after the age of something like forties but till then one has to play cautiously as decision like these can become often expensive and demanding above one's affordable level.
So before taking such a decision there's always a need of thorough introspection and more important listening to neutral parties coz in matters like this an introspection done by people involved often give desirable results:big_grin:
Yours truly,
Learner:tea:

[Learner]

Can a woman marry a younger man?
Answer: Legally yes:big_grin:
But to the bigger part of issue, would it be compatible/advisable? Sorry to sound redundant but depends a lot on people involved into, of course we can't take something to be right by just naming few Tendulkars et. all but yes this is one issue which can be considered primarily with people who are high in term of understanding psychology and need based relation dynamics.Now the problem is with decision which are taken emotionally and justifies wisely at beginning turns sour very soon, so all depends on handling first few hiccups, which can always be estimated by past history of the relationship i.e. say courtship period.Obviously a two to five years of difference doesn't count after the age of something like forties but till then one has to play cautiously as decision like these can become often expensive and demanding above one's affordable level.
So before taking such a decision there's always a need of thorough introspection and more important listening to neutral parties coz in matters like this an introspection done by people involved often give desirable results:big_grin:
Yours truly,
Learner:tea:

[rinksw]

I DONT THINK AGE IS IMPORTANT COZ WE NEVER ASK WHTS UR AGE & THEN ONLY GO AHEAD & LOVE THEM

[adiatparadise]

of course....if a man can marry younger woman...y nt a woman marry younger man...neways women are more emotionally stable ..when she commits...it is usually stable...men are comparitively different on that..

Guys this is my experience... anyways this one is for those who will marry older woman...."women are like wine...they get better with time...":SugarwareZ-191:

Gals ...plz dont get offended...:bigsmile:

[prachee]

it does not make any difference

[fairguy911]

Nothing wrong in it.

[manjotdullat]

ya ! i agree she can.... age is no matter .. its all about the mutual understanding between both of the partners

[Belsiyal]

yes ....certainly age dosent matter much....as long as the couple understand each other........

[zayne86]

yes absolutely.....

[vikash_nn]

Yaar I'm married to a girl who is 1 yrs senior to me then what makes difference

Pyaar hona chaiya, Saab chalta hai... dude

[ash rai]

ya ofcourse she has d rite to marry any 1 she wants to, is somethng like tht tld in d mythologies tht she cnt... if yes thn let it b followd by the 1 who wrote it!!!!!

[anandrshukla]

yeah why not there are amny xamples take sachn 4 instance its perfecly alright

[kartik]

if yes thn let it b followd by the 1 who wrote it!!!!!

Amen to that :biggrin:

[vinodhthiruvenkatam]

well i dont think age criteria is going to make a big difference, once they have a liking to each other .

[dreamdude66]

' Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs, Being purged, a fire sparkling in lovers' eyes, Being vexed, a sea nourished with lovers' tears. What is it else? A madness most discreet, A choking gall and a preserving sweet. '
Love unconditional is true love... you dont love a person for his/her age,caste,religion.nationality etc... you love him/her bevause there is a strong connection betwwen 2 hearts, two souls...... so spend ur life with your loved one no matter what the age/colour/race/creed/nationality.... so why not marry a a female older to you if you love her... LOVE that should be the only consideration for marriage...

[Abby]

nw a days its possible and acceptable provided......
both of u shd be at promiseable position in society..or atleast 1 of u shd hv a comandi respectable positn in society....
fr the 2 individuals it d love nothi else

[ravi4u2c]

can a women marry a man younger to her.

may be one year diffrence....

will this make much diffrence in normal love life ??



:SugarwareZ-158:

May be 3 to 4 will also do

[himali_sk]

can a women marry a man younger to her.

may be one year diffrence....

will this make much diffrence in normal love life ??



:SugarwareZ-158:

just a one year difference doesnt count. but yes 4-5 years of difference can certainly cause problems....
i think insecurity factors comes into the picture in such scenario.:fear:

[ananth71]

just a one year difference doesnt count. but yes 4-5 years of difference can certainly cause problems....
i think insecurity factors comes into the picture in such scenario.:fear:

Age never matters in a relationship, what matters is the comfort level or understanding between the 2 people. Understanding and trust and the ability to adjust to each other is the only thing that matters. Of course, what looks golden today, may not be the same a few years later on, so do think before jumping into a relation.


Regards

Ananth

[hsinam]

Its all about understanding in love...I am a live case...age do not make a difference

[shrutiarora.dce]

why not?
its their choice n this is a free country..

[ajinkya5430693]

thre is no such law exist in any country bt still there are sum cultural nd social laws which stops us frm doin this...im nt saying u should nt do this if two persons are ready to marry then they should also care abt their future, cz they will hav to suffer as medical science do not recomend to do so...in case of less than 4 years difference..in other case its ok...as far as i concern....

[nobody]

You did specify an age difference of one year, that should not be a problem.
Considering sachin leading a happy married life..........

[ritika vohra]

according 2 me age undoubtedly matters,,
as it is da whole universe knws dat women r dominating,,n if da guy is younger then toh he wil bcum a hen peck types..
y do u think dat parents luk 4 guys who r elder than their daughter??
its bcoz females gets matured faster than a male..
hence if da male is elder then d compatibility factor wil b favorable..
bottomline..ages matters 4 a relatinship(if u want it 2b long lasting)

[born2rule]

hey ritika....
i m wid u.....i too beleive this...though most of ppl dnt support this view...
if u need long lasting,,happy relationship u need to b compatible wid dat person and compatibility comes wid age difference only...if u marry elder guy he will definately understand u...

[Amuval]

There is nothing in the age factor. It all depends upon the maturity of the girl and the boy concerned and the mutual love towards each other. At times we see in so many couples with proper age difference that the man is less immatured than the girl, his wife. So, what to do with those cases?

[shippie_oc]

Go ahead n take the plunge buddy.In any case u gonna rue-whether she is elder or younger to you.LOL

[dreamshadow]

Y should there be problem. marriage is based on love and trust. if guys are elder does it gurantee successful marriage?? no...then y this hesitantce to accept younger guys getting married to older women?

totally agree:SugarwareZ-191:

[jigar_mehta16]

yes, why not?

If they love each other then they can marry a men younger then to him

[param]

ofcource a young guy can marry to a older girl merriage is all about a matter of trust and understanding . Being older or younger is never been a guaranty
of a happy married life. don't u think a girl older then u usually have mare grace and sence of understanding

[born2rule]

if som1 can answer this question so pls answer...
1.y should an elder women marry to young boy when there r elder matured boys???
2.wat is making a women marry a young man???again wat is the need for a young boy to marry an elder women???
3.can't young man be happy and satisfied wid young women (of his age)rather than searching for old ladies....
it seems there is more demand for old ladies..

[priyea]

for all ur 3 questions the answer is "its love. u nvr knw whn it happens and with whom it happens"

[born2rule]

good answer,,,,
bt again r elder men short in supply??
tht makes a women love a young boy only....
cnt she love an elder guy...

[Ravikant]

yes a woman can marry to a man who is younger than her....

this wld nt create a difference in thier love life.........

How does matter whether a woman is older or younger than the man? Age is no criteria for u to select ur companion for life.....

[mbah_maridjan1927]

Why not... but hopefully you'll still have those respect from your older wife

[hima_sss]

yeah if Ash n Abhy cn n b happy y nt others....

[avena.suri]

i think age no bar for love coz i can give n number of examples where men got larger share in pie than normal beings..Ashton, Sachin Tendulkar, Farah Khan's husband. Till the time both parties know they love each other and will respect each other..no marriage can fail:)

[nirav1234]

yes it matters , if the age of the woman is gr8er than man she will empower the man ands the man will become a henpacked husband

[shwetagirl08]

i don`t thnk thr shd be any problem
as long as they trust ,respect n understand each other.....

[girl]

No.. It may not be a big issue for both male(younger than the female) and female when they are comfortable with each other.. But later on it'll lead to more problems like
1.misunderstanding
2.Inferiority complex(for male) or superiority complex(for female)
3.As days goes(as the female becums older), the male'll start avoiding her and life'll becum miserable.

[girl]

i think age no bar for love coz i can give n number of examples where men got larger share in pie than normal beings..Ashton, Sachin Tendulkar, Farah Khan's husband. Till the time both parties know they love each other and will respect each other..no marriage can fail:)

Friend, u can give lot many examples.. they may also have a peaceful and understanding life but how can u expect that it happens all the time? All days are not sundays frend....
we Knew only those people(that u mentioned) are married like this that is male being younger than the female.. but do we know that their lives are peaceful and understanding??????

[manjuar2024]

I believe love is pure feeling and it happen's to everyone. As in consumer the taste and prefrence of all the customers is different and the same way everyone have there own likings. They should not bother if they really love each other.....Let's not comprmise on anything and do what is right in our life..............

[rahul.goyal]

i believ yes........the statement truly stands correct......there is nothing wrong in marring a younger man.....what matters is r they willing to continue there rest of there life's together???

[ashwiniku.verma]

well friends i m having different oppinion than most of my friends having. according to Indian tradition it is not permitable. as far as my knowledge about indian tradition is consern there is no any reason less activity is there in indian tradition. so there must be some reason thats why this tradition is made. i think some bio expert can say the complications. so we should to do so more discussion on this toppic

[Faiyazamitian]

But in my view age < 3 yrs are not so matter .....generally we are seeing that the lover couple are only involving in this matter ........but age doesn't matter in marriage...there shuld be mutual understanding b/w them .......

[blackhorse]

As this issue is a very sensitive issue, view on this issue is very subjective and vary from person to person...depending on the chemidtry snd understanding of those two persons. Since marriage is not about one being dominating but being about understable.

[fish040410]

woman don't trust man,and its true.
so either they married to a young or older than them...
result is always same ....
suspicious!!!!
woman always need more than expected,its not love
they never need love.

[shaneman333]

I know plenty of men married to older women and its fine. No worries.

[achin_b]

In today's day and age it is very well possible...........i dont think age has remained a primary criterion!!

[rising_chahal]

thr is no problem in marrying a lady who is 1 yr older , of course more age gap will lead to sm basic problems ., otherwise no issues .

[madhuraj_sn]

very well no probs

[bunta007]

Yes a woman can marry a guy younger to her... This will surely not affect their luv lyf.. As long as the two of them understand and trust each other, nothing can separate them... Age plays a part, but 1 yr does'nt make much of a difference... So enjoy and relax..

[shwet@]

well, a woman can marry a younger man. Marriage is all about understanding , love, respect and trust. Age doesn't matter in this!

[rahul_parab2006]

I don't think there's any prblm in woman marrying a younger man !!! :SugarwareZ-229:

The main criteria here is - love nad understnading between the two.... its nt abt age...its abt, hw they cares, adjusts situations n understnds for each other without being selfish........



coz one said that - everything is fair in love n war....so its fine.....

they can make their life successful with mutual understnading.....

Live happily !!! :tea:

[dhiren_te]

Me too have a same opinion...there is no problems whatsoever in a woman marrying a younger guy....we all have witnessed many examples of the same in today's world...I don't have to name them....Marriage is all about mutual understanding and commitment towards an individual with whom you ar comfortable with...it has got nothing to do with age...as long as you are comfortable with the person...age should not mahe a difference...

[Maverickinsky]

yes they will hev problems from the society but if they can sustain few early years it wud be gr8 as anyone doing such a thing wud certainly luv each other a lot
:tea:

[simran_bhatia]

i dont think age plays any role in this marriage... but the only thing which matters is the level of love which they all do to each other and yaa they must be accepted as per the law and the government i.e. in India 18 years and 21 years..... the minimum age line.....

[sagar87]

no yaar...if its only one year than not.....if its more than 5 yers there can be some problem down the line

[vikram chawla]

well ,,wen u love some 1,,nthin else shud matter..age is just a mere issue....it has absolutely no effect on the relationship both share...

[sunny_thapar]

ya why not
the time is changing n personal prfferences r cming into play

[debashish.ib]

Yes Of course! Women can definite marry men who are younger than her. Age is just another number.
What matter most is the compatibility quotient- which comprises of the degree of love, understanding, respect and loyalty the couple have for each other.
Worldwide studies and analysis have shown that that the compatibility quotient between a older womwn and younger man is more than that of an older man and younger woman.
So, don't be afraid, if you are dating an older woman and the compatibility quotient between two of you is good, you can very well plan to settle down with her in the future.

WISH YOU ALL THE BEST FROM MY SIDE !!!!!

PL TAKE CARE AND STAY HEALTHY !!!!!

Regards---
Debashish

[smit_haria]

y not all that matters is love and understanding

[sampathlucky]

Yes Ofcourse!! Marriage is an institution based on luv trust and understanding. The age hardly matters as long as the two people understand and accept each other with all their plus and minuses..

Moreover, one year is hardly any age diffrence!!! And not to forget.. an older woman is always a better companion. May be this is the reason why in Southern India, most of the people have wives who are atleast 6 years older to them...

And you were thinking one yr is huge gap????

:kelw:

Yaar who told u that in southern India most of the people have wives who are atleast 6 years older to them... ha.............
for love ther are no age limits that every one accepts but not the statement u have made sorry to tell this

[eternal.doms]

depends
not in every region / culture / tradition / religion / type of people
but there is example of a tribal tribe in orrisa where a lady marries only after 30 and the boy is under or just 20
they have there own philosophy
and if man can marry young lady so why cant a woman marry to younger man
and regarding love its totally a psychological mind set huh but other factors do affect it and it may fade or vary couple to couple

[4:13]

well 1 year is really not a big difference, however i feel that if the woman is elder she tends to dominate in the relationship... so, would'nt favour a man marrying a woman elder to him leaving aside the love, trust and etc etc..

[MEL]

:SugarwareZ-229: Yes!! My wife is 5 years older and our relationship is excellent...

[preeti08]

Hi All!

I think a woman may marry a younger man with a difference of 3 years max (5 in certain cases) as otherwise it could lead to marital problems.

preeti08

[sanketh789]

Dats actually a great topic indeed. Der is no problem if u marry a gal who is elder to u. Wat matters is Understanding between u guys :-)

[sachinkothari00707]

Yes like Man marries to younger women. Grow up dude

[RC1327]

SURE SHE CAN MARRY BECAUSE IT IS JUST THE UNDERSTANDING AND RECIPROCALITY OF FEELINGS THAT MATTERS

[beone]

in my opinion age does matter.how??i will say...
1.if a young boy marry's an older women,,he wud look like younger brother
2.maturity..young boys r little immatured,,so he cant understand d needs of gal.(most of d cases)

it is difficult to say as you stated:SugarwareZ-158:

[icecubez]

why cant a woman marry a younger man as long as they love each other... well age's jsut a number !

[nazeer78in]

one or five years differance wont be a problem

[ankitgokani]

HERE IS A STORY TO EXPLAIN THIS.............OF BRYAN N HIS WIFE'S EXPERIENCE


My husband and I have been happily married for 17 years. What makes our relationship unique is that Bryan was born in 1960 the year after I graduated high school. He is 19 years my junior; I am older than his mother. The secret of our success is a deeply committed love for one another. Ours is a passionate romance. Each of us is whole, happy and healthy. Bryan and I have a love that keeps my spirit young. I am sharing our story to give older women hope that they too can find peace and love with a younger man.

We met in 1985 during a rainy winter in San Francisco. We were neighbors on a tiny street near the historic Mission Dolores. The worst storm of the season was on its way and my roof was leaking profusely. I was in dire straits financially, having been newly divorced. I was preparing to fix it myself. Unfortunately my ladder wasn't tall enough. I needed help. None of the folks I knew were home that Saturday morning but I noticed an open door directly across from my house. I hurried upstairs to the second story flat in the azure painted duplex and walked down the long corridor to the living room. There on the sofa was a guy watching the football game on T.V. I introduced myself and then proceeded to ask for his assistance. He looked at me like I was crazy. The silence was deafening. How often does a stranger enter your apartment with a request for help with a major repair? I was flushed with embarrassment but was in too deep to recover. Fortunately he agreed to help me.

This uncommon beginning signaled the magic that lay before us. The sparks flew. We went on our first date within days of this meeting. Bryan's car was broken so we took the bus across the city to an authentic Moroccan restaurant where we sat on paisley cushions and ate with our fingers. I remember clearly how primitive this felt and how natural it was to be with him. He didn't seem the least bit concerned about my age. I, on the other hand, was more sensitive. I was healing from a codependent relationship of 12 years and had never experienced true intimacy. I wasn't sure it was the proper thing to do but I couldn't help myself; I was falling in love. I was scared because these feelings were coming so quickly.

Bryan moved in with me within weeks of our first meeting. I remember thinking if it didn't work out it would be easy to ask him to leave because all he owned was a T.V.

For Valentine's Day he created a hanging wire mobile in the shape of intertwined hearts and presented it to me with flowers and chocolate.

This type of thoughtful gesture is typical of Bryan. He has never missed a special occasion and has often surprised me with jewelry when he returns from a business trip.

One evening in the spring we were waiting to board a dinner train in Mendocino. A drunken man approached us and said, "How come you two are dressed up? Are you getting married?" Bryan looked at me and said, "Yes, we are aren't we?" That was his proposal. It was decided we would plan a wedding for later that year. But, first I needed to meet Bryan's mother.

Just the thought of it terrified me! Bryan and his mother, Sharon, have a truly special bond. He insisted he would not tell anyone about our engagement until she and I met. We drove to southern California where Sharon was visiting her sister, Bryan's aunt. I felt sick the entire trip. I knew in advance he was going to take his mother shopping the next morning alone to break the news to her. I couldn't sleep at all that night. What felt so "right" to Bryan and me was unusual, especially in the eyes of a parent. When they returned from their excursion Sharon looked like she had just come from a funeral. Fortunately, for me, Aunt Toby accepted the situation and eased the tension by giving me a white angel ornament. His mother is a wonderful woman. In spite of her disappointment, she welcomed me into their family. Over the years our relationship has evolved into a unique friendship, a cross between a peer and a sister.

December 7, 1986, dressed in an ivory colored Victorian gown, I was driven to our wedding in a horse drawn carriage. I remember the sensation well. As I heard the clip-pity clop of the hoofs hitting the pavement I felt it was the happiest day of my life. The ride was several miles long and I enjoyed cars honking loudly at every turn. When we arrived at the elegant Alamo Square Inn Bryan was waiting to escort me inside to the nuptials. It was a good thing he took my hand, for as I exited the carriage, my knees collapsed from shaking so hard. The day was spectacular marking a lifetime of love.

Both Bryan and I had always wanted kids. By the time we met my biological clock had run out. He told me he would rather marry a woman he loved deeply than to wait for someone to bear his children. For several years we were content to be a unit of two. After my dear Aunt Letha died in 1992 I longed for a child. I knew we would be good parents. Bryan agreed to adoption. It was an arduous experience requiring patience and resilience. We had several birthmothers who changed their minds for different reasons. This process took three years and a great deal of money. Ultimately we were blessed with a baby girl we named Mariah. Our daughter is now 8 years old and the light of our life.

Bryan continues to be my rock, strength and loving support. During our years together I have had many tragedies including: my brother John's suicide in 1988, my ex- husband Joey's death from alcoholism in 1989, and my girlfriend Debra's suicide in 2002. I was hospitalized with a potentially life threatening blood clot in my lungs in 1998. Bryan stood by me through all of these. I married a great guy! I am a fortunate woman to have found true love in the heart of a younger man.

Age is but a notch on the tree of life. Does it really matter that I have more than he. We are all on a spiritual path. We choose lovers, friends and family to mirror our soul's development. Partners of different ages can accelerate this growth. These diverse emotional experiences are opportunities of a lifetime. Let's enjoy them

[dhamodi]

What has age got to do with marriage....

[tanvi2009]

yeepp y notwat is the harm in it??i dun se any problem wid this concept!

[Neel Jani]

Hi, i m a newbiw here. This is my 1st ever post in MP and i hope to get support of all of you out here.

Coming back to you question:

Well my answer is Yes. Its all abt Love. When 2 ppl love each other no barriers can stop them. One shouldnt be caring too much abt the society. If both are mentally and physically happy then they should be marrying.


Regards

[madronny]

Yes Ofcourse!! Marriage is an institution based on luv trust and understanding. The age hardly matters as long as the two people understand and accept each other with all their plus and minuses..

Moreover, one year is hardly any age diffrence!!! And not to forget.. an older woman is always a better companion. May be this is the reason why in Southern India, most of the people have wives who are atleast 6 years older to them...

And you were thinking one yr is huge gap????

[ed1968]

it depends all on the nature of the relation ship and the duties they face in life. it also depends on the type of personality and the spark between them that create a successful relationship.

[anwesha]

definately!!!!....there is no big hitch in getting married 2 a young guy.....in my opinion.....no doubt it wuld nt b socially excepted but....in order 2 stay happy u have 2 b a rebel....n do things nt coz its d way they shuld be done....but coz u wanna do them tat way

[Alisha Savla]

definately yes !!!!!!!

a women can marry a younger man , the main motive of mairrage is to understand ,respect and care 4 each other ,if that is there then there will b no problems

[clairvoyance88]

sure love does not have boundaries...it trancends all boundaries and cannot be held back jst for the inconvenience of age...

[unknownvupman]

yes definetly....age shld not be a criteria for marriage

[priyankada]

i think its ok to marry younger man it doesnt really matter till u understand each other properly

[atishayster]

yes..she can always marry a younger man..enough examples of great ppl around us..who did so..

[exirus]

why not?
life is all about making decisions. rt? and which ever course of action u take its all about making the choices that suits u.

[jerrywastrel]

I think a age difference will not make a difference if there is proper undestanding between the couple

[psrivastava40]

It is all in the mind. At an intellectual level it won't make any difference, however, if the age gap is too much for physical compatibility, then it can create problems and cause frustation.

[kanika gupta]

I think what matters in a relation is "LOVE" AND NOT AGE.
I Strongly agee to the point that a women can marry a younger man if they can adjust at their free will.

[kashifsp]

Age does not matter till the time there is a chemistry between the two ! With no malign intentions behind the relationship, it is bound to live forever.

[Lokesh babu]

age s not a big issue for marriage, at the end the of the day you should get a right person to make u r life beautiful..............

[kahkah]

Noting is really bad about doing it, it's just usually he'll have more experience that shedoes

[shah.mba]

offcourse.. if there is a proper understanding between couples.

[balbalemahmer]

I dont mind doing one...i had hots for Madhuri since my childhoood days:SugarwareZ-058:

[g.a.u.r.i]

i dont think ther should b a problem

:juggle:

[meenakshypv]

I do not see any issue with a woman marrying a younger man as long as both of them are comfortable with each other.

[khan450]

yea obviously they can, but depends how our society accepts this thing.

[niraj_hattangdi]

off course a man can marry woman who is elder to him..love is never concerned with age..it just happens..great example is sachin and anjali tendulkar...she is 5 years elder to him...

[sangaratul]

infact i think this couple will work out better than a conventional Uncle marrying a chic. :SugarwareZ-235:

[amarmeta44]

yes infat all women should marry younger men.

[aanchal e george]

ofcourse she can..its just a social norm that peolpe blindly follow .............................................................................................................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[manhas.divya09]

Ofcourse why not...this is the new age...
As long as they are not bothered about this society...

[rahulrana_ip]

i think yes...... age is not a bar these dayssss ..... even our society is accepting these typ f marriages. love doesnt cosider age. it can happen to any1....

[jasthi_bhanu]

age is just a social need, love is more important than age...

[poddar.tulika]

Oh Yes surely!!the vedas give the logic...its preferred!!however...too young a fella could b dangerous for the woman!:bigsmile:

[uzair_gr8]

well dont think so it makes any difference, love is for soul not for her age ;)
na uumr ki seema ho .... na janm ka ho bandan
jab pyaar kara koe to dakha kewal man

[km_jpr]

Yes, The time has changed now so its feasible.

[frenzy_d]

yes a woman can marry a younger man, except that no compatibility issues arise.

[raj4tex]

yes.....If they have good understating between theirself, age will not make any difference....

[preettymandeep]

I think one year gap is ok.... but not more than that......

[psrivastava40]

Firstly__the question itself has been framed incorrectly.

It should be : Is it advisable for a man to marry a woman younger to him?

My answer; YES!! Why not. By all means he can marry legally.

Aspects to be considered are: Physiological compatibility and mental wavelength. On psychological level, one should not try to similar but be complementary to each other otherwise two headstrong people will kill each other. Mental compatibility means understanding each other and respect for each other.

I don't think I need to elaborate on physiological aspect.

Praveen

[milinborse]

There is always 2 sides of a coin
1. It should not make any difference if both of them love each other and are totally loyal.
2. It may create differences if the age gap is high as there will be huge difference in their maturity level and thought process. Moreover, Girls get mature faster than boys. Some one sometime said.... A girl figures out motherhood in her teens whereas even after being father a Man finds it difficult to understand what has he done.....

[ajhawar]

yes yes.........................................................................................................

[prasadgoa]

yes, a woman can marry to a man who is younger to her. age doent matter when the relationship exists between them is faithful, caring and loving

[eternity1]

how does age matter in true love!!!!! as long as u both love each other - its all good!!!!!

looks and all such silly thngs are superficial where true love is concerned! unconditional love can make any relation beautiful!!! :) so definitely, a woman can marry a younger man!!!

[confused21]

ofcourse a woman can marry a person younger than her if a man can do so then y not a woman and most imporantly there should be understanding and love between them.......

[s.singhal87]

Why Not? Provided they are both ready to adjust and make sacrifices to have a long lasting relation. Marriage is not dependent on age but understanding

[shivani.mehta]

why nt? age shud b no bar in this matter

[ashutosh.taparia]

Since most have replied to the question in an affirmative, I would like to play the devil's advocate and ask how many of us know someone who have done this.....many of our practices are based on foundations that cannot be easily justified.....It is a Biological fact that women mature (both sexually and as per my experience even mentally) faster than men.....Thus although there is nothing wrong in marrying a younger guy, but traditionally speakin the practive of the Man being older is justified...

[riddhima saini]

i feel age doesnt matter once uv decided to b wid eachoder for the rest of ur lives.i mean,mayb it mite look a bit abnormal 4 oders,but wen ur sure that this person is worth all the effort,it doesnt really matr even if its 1 year or 10 years difference.only the feeling,the attraction matters.if it stays on evn aftr 20-30 years of courtship,i think thats true love.n y shud all the limitations b only restricted to women all the time?if a man marries a younger female,its alrt whereas if a woman marries,its like shes done a huge crime.we only say that all hav equal rts,weder male or female,but in reality,its not the same.somewhere down the line,women r still supressed by all the worldly obligations.

[chanchalsoni]

if 2 persons btter undrstnd eachother nd respect eachother age doesn't make any differnce

[deepika swathi]

ya sure , a true love doesn't see small age differences and egos

[mangalchauhan]

For love life......Don't care abt all this things...........

I think for marriage 1 year to 3 years different doesn't matter.............

but it depends on person to person, what they want?...........how they want to lives there life?.....it just a matter of mutually understanding between two person...

[ashpt33]

jab ladka ladki razi to kya karega qazi....lollzzz

[vijaypalsingh]

I think there wud not b any problem provided the both love each other.
But again it is better if any boy marry to a younger girl and the difference between the ages of both not more than 5 yrs, it is Bcoz it has been proved that the girl becomes mature earlier than boy...:


SugarwareZ-219:

[rupalsingh2009]

of course yes a woman can marry a younger man.............if age is the determining factor in love then wherez the place for understanding and more importantly "LOVE"

[rupalsingh2009]

Yup she can, after all life is not driven by age but understanding and love...........

[kats1432000]

yup !!!!!!!!!a lady can marry a man younger to her...but for this their should be no obligations from their in-laws side...n the couple should have an ultimate bond(of love) between them...for eg:ASH-ABHISHEK

[rajvijeta]

How does age matter when marriages are concerned....going by examples...one can sight quite a large number of instances where younger men have had successful marriages with older women...its all in the mind..and it just takes some amount of guts to break the cult!

[khushisipani]

i agreee:SugarwareZ-290:.....................................................................................................

[imtiaz8as]

Definitely!!!!!
Man can marry younger girls they Y not women!!!!!!!!

[Anandhi_g]

yes, for love there is no age nor a bar.... all the best....

[vinnysinghhere]

no women cant marry a younger man...only a woman can marry a younger man.age difference cant make our love less for each other ...just we have to make understanding and respect each others feeling and emotion......

[vinnysinghhere]

just we have to follow a simple rule...dont love those whom you love but love those who loves you.....

[vinnysinghhere]

for me age is not a constraint...i doest mean that she must be 9-10 year older than me.....5-6 year is ok...but most important is her love, feeling and attachment with me....for me......

[rdtvimalraj]

whether itz a n important topic ? Lolz
Any how i go for the option no ..

[eeshamehra]

ya as of wat i thing into any relationship wat matters is compatibility and not age

[darshitsheth]

y not !!! of course they can but i feel the age difference should not be too much also !! dat would lead to issues !!

[PushpaGiri_8486]

There is nothing Wrong as long as both r comfortable with each other

[meghna.raviprakash]

i think as long as both of them are compatible, age does not matter.. i've seen many couples who r gr8 together, whr the wife is elder to her husband.

[in_4_u_babess]

kaiko nahin.................
there is no such restriction anewhere........ nor in ane1's religion

Jaaao mazze karo
:enjoy:

[nikhilsondkar]

yes she can....but generally guys are a bit slow on maturity level as compared to womens so that might create a problem

[hiralkothari]

Y not....
i mean...she can marry...any person of her choice...
he may b ne1...means he can b elder thn her or younger thn her....
a relationship always depends upon love n trust among them...
so i dont thnk an age should b a factor....

concl:A woman can marry a yopunger man....

[conza]

Why not?...
Love emphasizes on understanding and respect to each other rather than the age.

[Striker@47]

There shouldnt be any problem...........................................................

[khanejaprachi]

i think when the 1st tym u realize that u like a person..or love them..u dont ask their birth date as the prerequisite question..n if u can naturally fall for someone who's younger..there isnt harm marrying them..if u get along..n ur relationship is such then so be it,isnt marriage all about a LIFETIME OF LOVE neway...i hav personally been in love with someone who's younger to me, tho he ws my classmate...n i find him way more mature n capable..i dont like him for being YOUNGER OR OLDER..bt for who he is..irrespctv of his birthdate!!

[gpuneetg]

why not..if they understand each other age diff doesn't matter

[ashpt33]

yes........................................................

[hipcity]

why not... i guess age is not a criteria to love.... love is understanig for each other, its a respect for each other ... so far one understands each others feeling i dont think it will craeat any hurdle..

[shlenkz]

You should be certainly grateful for the love you get and if necessary take the relationship to the next level. Age as a marriage criteria is created for the benefit of the society or a single gender's dominance in that society. So elder woman-younger man marriage depends on the comfort level amongst the lovebirds and the society.

[J123]

I believe they can because there shouldnt be anything that should stop a person from doing what they think is right for themselves

[swap2106]

yes ..of course...why not....it s after all an individuals personal choice ...people should be given the freedom to make thier own choices...

[yogini shroff]

why not!!!
infact mature women can understand the man in much better way

[jayakrishnan_jn]

The Indian society still doesn't accept dis practice. but as for me, if there is no problem for the man and the women they can perfectly go ahead and marry... its the fear of breaking the tradition which binds us to it...

[greatdude10]

Yes, i dont see any issues if both are willing

[kishorkumar25]

Hahaha Wht a joke !!!!! wht to say.. 40 characters.. is it over.... no man never..... addd more dots................................... enough??? no................ never.................... some more.,....................... comme onn..................

[vikrantverma]

yes, why not.
i perfectly agree that a woman can mary a younger man, not only 1 year younger, but in my eyes...age is no creteria for love. the things which matter the most are your understanding and feasibility with the person.
so till u are comfortable with the person and think that you can smoothly lead a healthy life, then go for it.

the only problem i see in marring a younger man, is that in this scenario the female will be more mature then the counter part. and due to immaturity of male partner, some personl problems may arise.

[harman_89]

I do agree that age doesn't matter in one's life. If it can happen between a much older man and a much younger girl so does it can flourish well between a much older women and a much younger boy.
As we say you never know when love is in the air.............!!!

[Marxist]

My wife is 4 yrs older than me and we have a great relationship. Although, we were both older when we were married. So, maturation in the relationship helps as well...

[keshav.sachdeva]

I m fully agree, Off course a woman can marry to a man who is younger to her.............Love is understanding for each other, its a respect for each other ... so far one understands each others feeling i don't think it will create any hurdle. :)))))

[youkouki]

yes y not, its human right, and their freedom.:lalala:

[ketanchande]

can a women marry a man younger to her.

may be one year diffrence....

will this make much diffrence in normal love life ??



:SugarwareZ-158:


Not at all...its all in the mind..there have been successful marriages even with a decades gap :SugarwareZ-226:

[caetanomiguelp]

Of course they can. If they love each other its not age that will stop them from getting married.

[djzaidi]

Hell yeah ! age is'nt any barrier for a relationship

[vibhasm]

I dont see any harm in women marrying a younger man but then the society in which we live will not accept it that easily especially if there is a substantial age difference so it also depends on what kind of social life the couple are living in and to what extend they can compromise on it.

vibhas

[LOVEY.PATHAK]

yes why not ... it totally depends on the mutual respect and understanding between the couple.

[stayreckless]

why not....its free world now...any1 can marry any1..

[sharad.cyberspace]

law does not impose any such restriction according to hindu marriage act there is only minimum age to marry and it does not impose any other barrier to marriage, marriage is an institution based on love and understanding and some ppl can't tell ne1 whome to love, or check age of boy before falling in love.

[syedfaiz]

man can marry a woman elder to her.as long as both are willing but it is not advisable cos the thinking will be diffrent

[rarun86]

why not ??? I guess its perfectly fine as long as the women doesnt look very old ...otherwise they would look very odd coz normally men tend to look better and younger arond 30-35...and otherwise if they both like each other then who is bothered about the world ...

[ashishasrang]

Marriage is all about understanding between both the persons .....!!
So no age limit is there for Love ....!!

[dev_100825]

It completely depends on the two individuals. As long as they are happy with each other and follow the law of marriage act, there should be no problem.

[anirudhcbr]

yes a women can marry a younger man because they both are in deep love and in love nothing matters.So from my point of view, they both can marry

[amitvijaysharma]

This dosen't make difference that who is younger.........the understanding and love is important in life

[Kelvin Sovi]

Age does matter. One can not marry a woman who is 40 yrs older! But a one year or two age difference is ok and the woman must give the husband due respect.

[lavender2906]

According to me it wont make any big difference....basically the concept called " LOVE " does not much cares or what we can say restricts itself due the differences in the age of partners....if there is a mutual understanding between the woman and the man then nobody can stop them from loving each other even the age difference....then it may be of 1 year or 10 years....:yo:

[ramiramib87]

she can, we live in a free world
any woman can marry any man, the world
has become one big city

[pamela_sol]

Sure, Why not??
Or only men can marry younger women?

[arauf]

yes man should be elder to woman because of the maturity of minds. a woman gets maturity more quicker then to man.

[blackmamba1386]

she can, we live in a free world
any woman can marry any man, the world
has become one big city
i totally agree....
its upto her to decide

[yuvankarthik]

in my point of view, it will not make any diff. hardly one year gap wont mak such that diff. age does nt matters in marriage only love matters

[rinaldi]

Absolutely, look at Joan Collins. 30 year age gap!!

[samir_dadi]

Age is immaterial but maturity is. It is usually seen that mens mature later then ladies, this is nature's principle. girls attain puberty in a tender age whereas guys take a longer time.

I don't think so that it would be problem b'coz a year difference doesn't matter.

And as such there's no marriage successful formula. As you are taking one of the "most important decision of your life" I would advice to consult your elder's and boy's elder. Elders advices are invaluable b'coz the situation u and i go through, they have already experienced. So please...

And one more think, don't hurry.. Remember, "its a very important decision of your life".

[girish_bvrit]

It matters a lot....
bcz if boy is younger then girl, then girl would take it as advantage.
and the other reason is there will be more chances for ego either it may be from girl or boy..

[ritesh_aquarius]

well, y not...
the thing that matters is the understanding b/w the two...
a gap of arnd 5 years is ok...

[swe276]

age does not matter as long as der is abundant trust, understanding n ,to a certain extent, practicality as well....

[djhallow]

can a women marry a man younger to her.

may be one year diffrence....

will this make much diffrence in normal love life ??



:SugarwareZ-158:
y not ?
wat differnce does it make as i think it wont affect either of them.

[pmon]

yes i agree wid aniket..........
every thing is fair in love n war
but dere should b a limit- i think max 3 yrs older women.....
what do u say?

[pmon]

rply plz..............................................................

[nightsilentor]

It looks easy that a younger man can marry a older women but i think that girls mature a lot younger and guys later on fall for some other women. So i dont think its a gud idea. We can take the case of Saif ali khan. Now he is with kareena.

[riddhima saini]

i think its alrt for a woman to marry a younger man,i mean,y does age matter so much.guys,we r living in the 21st century, n i think we need to grow up.love does not knw age, religion,status n stuff like that.when we love some1,its jus that feeling that matters..

[utkarsh_ujjwal]

i completely agree.. this is a very important issue which needs immediate attention

[rahul.gupta_86]

yes of course..... when ppl do not sneer at older men marrying girls of their daughter's ageswhy do women become a center of all puns if she wants to marry a younger man??
i mean c'mmon give them a break............

[arauf]

why not age does not matter a man can love elder woman and woman can be in love with youger man. love is the only thing which bind them togather.

[neha20092009]

ofcource a young guy can marry to a older girl merriage is all about a matter of trust and understanding .

[smit_haria]

ya they can. whats wrong in it? there is nothing to do with a mans age. its all about love and understanding

[hitlerthenazi]

yes definitely!!.. when the question of marriage arises..people tend to complicate things ...the baseline of the matter is that marriage means seking of social recognition by a man and woman for staying together... i think age is no criteria here.. there are numerous succesful marriages where even though a woman is elder the match is a success

[ashish09]

I think it should not be discussed so much ...... its a question of 2 adults who can decide for themselves & age gap should not be a criteria ........

[beautify5]

YeS... wHY nOT... anyone can marry anyone... feelings and trusts matter .. age doesnt matter anything... But haa.. as a parent they do give prefrence to age.

[savio13]

can a women marry a man younger to her.

may be one year diffrence....

will this make much diffrence in normal love life ??



:SugarwareZ-158:

No this wont make a difference at all since love sees no bar..
The only thing is that you should be able to take care of that person and give yourself completely to him/her.
There should be no age or caste distinction in love...
Love the person as they are and they will love you the same.

[Jessica Ann]

If both love each other then age is not a problem atall.

[kapil21682]

Why not?? I do not even know the reason why in our country it is mandatory for the guy to be older than a girl for a marriage. If anybody does, someone should enlighten me!

[rouger]

:SugarwareZ-222: There is nothing wrong in it. You can see lot of people marrying women older to them. Take for eg Cricketers Sachin Tendulkar, Venkatesh Prasad, etc. They lead a happy life. However, you would need to be cautious about the age difference. it should not be much, max 3 years difference. Otherwise as you guys age, the lady would look much older and it could cause embarassment in future. and also the child bearing ability decreases in older women.

:angel:Old barriers are being broken down all around us. Interracial marriages, single parenthood by choice, open committed gay/lesbian relationships represent examples of alternative life options that, unthinkable few years ago, today are becoming part of the mainstream. Nevertheless, all of them were met with resistance, and no acceptance. However the resistance is less today since numbers of people feel empowered to live their life in accordance to their own needs, beliefs, and values.

The people are for the most part, sane, intelligent, responsible and productive member of society; many of them happen to be older women.

:o

Total women marrying younger men:26%
Women marrying men more than six years younger:7%
Women who have been married before marrying a man more than six years younger:15%
More than six years younger:15%
Typical age at first marriage for men:28
Typical age at first marriage for women:27

Older women/younger men relationships are far more prevalent and far more successful than society would have us believe. Our social order reinforces often the message that theses relationships are a bad thing or only temporary thing.
Also they make it okay when a men in his fifties and sixties marry women in their twenties. However, in those rare cases which the women is older than a men such a marriage ends badly, sadly or tragically.

Few examples of celebrities married to younger men:

Madonna
Demi moore
Cameron Diaz
Lisa Fisher
Sabah :yo::SugarwareZ-027:

[berdah01]

yes why not! :) as long as they get along there should not be an age issue :)

[prashant12]

hey friend why not....she can marry him because if there is love between them then they can marry with each other..bcoz there is no age difference between love if they truly love each other then there must be good understanding between them and that too one year diff is not a big diff...

[bikramseth]

I think that is a personal desicion and the choice is that of the women only.